There is a tool that has proven to be even more effective than “is there something you need right now” that I call The Menu of Options. By the way, if you haven’t yet read “The problem with what do you need right now?” then check out that article HERE What is The Menu of …
A key element that sets us apart from other coaching programs and sets us up to create powerful and lasting change in our clients is the practice of Honoring Protectors. A client once said to me, “The reason I need to be working with you right now is because you approve of my parts more …
One of the biggest mistakes that therapists, coaches, leaders, and friends make is asking someone: “What do you need right now?” You may be thinking “Wait! What? I was taught that I should regularly ask that question to people in my life, especially if they are struggling, upset, angry, or in need in some way!” …
Today I decided that the road was going to be my personal growth workshop. I decided to lean into a belief I’ve been cultivating over the last few years called The Mirror Projection Theory This is the idea that my reactions to others are simply a mirror for me. The person across from me represents …
What is Shadow? Shadows are the parts of us that we reject because on some level we have learned that they are dark, bad, evil, filthy, disgusting, wrong and are “just not me.” When we don’t “own” our shadows, we will inevitably project them onto those around us. This ends up looking like blaming and …
“What do I do if I find myself projecting onto others when I’m in a leadership position?” If the person really trusts us, and we subconsciously see them as a reflection of someone who we have wounding with, then we could unknowingly be trying to get our needs met with that person in a way …
I used to believe that true friendship was about knowing and being known. I thought that meant them knowing my story. So, for many years when I met someone I wanted to be friends with I endeavored to tell them my life story. The problem was, there was so much to tell, and life kept …
Four years ago I had an insight that helped me see and break out of the molds that other people were putting me in, and it has changed how I interact with people ever since. I remember that particular evening well. I was running an event with about 20 people. A new student stood out …
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